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Alright, I thought a good follow up post would be to talk about building a rapport. I'll start by defining what it means. I got the definition from Wikipedia.com. Rapport is one of the most important features or characteristics of unconscious human interaction. It is commonality of perspective: being "in sync" with, or being "on the same wavelength" as the person with whom you are talking.
You can use this information for anyone you meet whether it be for a new cute boy or girl, or if its a new business partner whom you want to get to know better. So do not limit yourself to using this strictly for business or strictly for relationships. Use it for EVERYTHING. Now that we have that out of the way we can go into how to build a rapport with the person whom you just met. When you meet this new person and you start with a conversation, you may have to suck it up and NOT talk about yourself. If you want someone to like you the best way to do it is to talk about them. Find out where they work, what they do for fun, find out about their family and friends, and find out what motivates them. The more you talk about someone the more they will like you because people LOVE talking about themselves. If you don't believe me, try it sometime. I think you will be amazed with the results. Just when you are talking to someone don't treat it like an investigation. Be yourself and have fun and you can't lose.
You can see why this works because when you talk to someone and they talk about themselves because you are asking them questions. People enjoy talking to others about them and if you are actually genuinely interested they will like you even more. When they talk about their family and friends, interact with them. When they talk about their likes and dislikes find things you can relate to because if you have a lot of "me too's" the person will like you even more and build that "rapport" on an unconscious level. What I mean with the me too's is the more you relate to a person and show them that you relate to them the more they will like you because they see themselves in you. And if they don't like you after all of this then they don't like themselves because you should have talked about them, talked about their family, talked about how you relate to them, and talked about their likes and dislikes. So you do all those things and you will not lose. Try it sometime..... You will be able to talk to people whom you have not been able to talk to and BE YOURSELF. You will like what you see.
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To Your Success,
Corey Otten
This blog is about exactly what it says. LIFE. Things you can do in your everyday life that can make it better if you do them. But if you don't do them will it kill you? NO but eventually you will see the difference. You can make excuses or you can get things done. You can't do both.
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11 comments:
true true. people love talking about themselves. everybody you meet.
corey.you always have the best blogs and they always have good advice. this all will actually come in handy very soon and ill deff be considering this when the time comes :D
This is so freakiin true, and you were riight, I would love this one and I do! And you're advice leads to playing the friend card first, before you get into a relationship, because tehn you get to know them before hand and see their real side, and that's the way to do it, because atleast then you know what you're working with.
I completely agree with you on this one. People love talking about themselves but there are some who love learning from others and that is where this comes into play. Letting others open up to you is a perfect way to guide a relationship into a higher stand point. :) The only way to learn is to listen and the only way to grow is to do.
I should send you my "This I Believe" paper I'm writing for my English class, I think it would go ever so nicely with the subject of the blog. It's true, people do like talking a bout themselves, they enjoy hearing their own voice. Sometimes it's just to hear their own voice. But very true. Very true. I like it. =)
Thank you Everyone for your encouraging words. I look to inspire people to be great and do great things. It is YOU who makes everything I do possible. Thank you.
corey i loved this blog it was really good and gave me some great advice :)
Corey I Agree With You And You Are Very Nice Person And I Love Talk to you as friends because you always give me good courgue ...
I'm going to have to try this. It seems like an interesting challenge.
So what happens if one person who's aware of the concept of letting the other person talk about themselves... runs into another person who is aware of the concept of letting the other person talk about themselves.... do we have two people who appear boring but are merely trying to push the opportunity on the other person to talk about themselves? Thus two people awkwardly playing the same mind game on eachother? And walking away in the end with the false theory that the other person was a total bore? Man,,, mind games suck.
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